Fear is My Friend

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Newborn Photographer and her Thoughts

Have you ever had your heart pound with fear? Your face gets hot and flushed, then a sick feeling comes over your stomach and it becomes hard to breathe. Thinking clearly is totally out of the question when all you can feel is the adrenaline pulsing through your body. Fear has taken over.

Hey Fear, Come Sit Next to Me

As mothers, we are familiar with this feeling when our child does something dangerous, and as wives when we fear the worst for our loved one. As daughters we feel this when we get a 2:00 am call from family across the state.  As partners, we feel this when we have opened up and said something vulnerable and fear it will land on deaf ears. The world stops for a second and we can hear our heart beating outside of our chest. Time passes like honey falls from the comb. Everything is slow.

Your body is in fight or flight mode. The response is triggered by the release of hormones that prepare your body to either stay and deal with a threat or to run away for safety. The sympathetic nervous systems stimulate the adrenal glands triggering the release of catecholamines, which include adrenaline and noradrenaline. This results in an increase in heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing rate. The result is chaos in the body and mind.

I have become friends with fear. Befriending fear is easier than ignoring it. It is easier than combating it. Don’t get me wrong; I am not making room for him at the table or befriending his presence, but I am not ignoring his power. To fear I say, “I see you. I hear you. But I am moving forward anyway.”

Conquering fear is part of a life well lived. It means seizing every opportunity to show loving commitment instead of being paralyzed by the anxiety. It’s when you just go for it and know that you tried your level best. It’s standing firmly next to your story instead of hiding behind your skeletons. It’s dancing in your kitchen with your child when you feel like crying alone. I choose this life. I choose to try and fail. I choose sitting next to fear and breathing through it so I can say, “This is worth the risk. Today I will dance, love, sing, and play”.

Please enjoy this special Newborn Photography Session.

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